The Imperfectly Perfect Guy

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Have you ever met someone and you both just clicked? Right off the bat, you knew there was something about him. You couldn’t put your finger on the exact thing. Was it the way he made you laugh? The endless things you seemed to have in common. The instant chemistry? Maybe it was all of the above.

Then without your permission, you start looking forward to his messages, your heart flutters at the thought of him and you start picturing what it would be like with him. You tell your heart not to, but it still sticks out its valves and gets attached; too fast, too furious. It’s almost like there was this gaping hole that just needed to be filled and he occupied it within an instant.

Then you see a crack, a small, almost insignificant flaw in what seems to be the perfect guy. So you paint over it with all the other faultless qualities. And not in an ordinary color, but something florescent so that your attention stays there. You tell yourself you’re happy because for a while you truly think you are. Despite that, as more time passes, there is something that just doesn’t sit right with you. You aren’t sure what it is, all you know is that you are not completely comfortable.

There were probably warning signs along the way; the way that he spoke about his family or your family, the way he treated other people, his lack of ambition, and the endless excuses for everything. You may have even had a small voice in your head saying, “He’s not the one.” The thing is, eventually, what started as a little crack will grow and expand until the whole thing is shattered.

Sometimes it takes the reveal of a girlfriend or a child to shatter the well-built image we created. But then, what is it that makes us fall so quickly with the wrong guy? It was the potential, of who he could be rather than who he is, that is what we fell for. And the image of that potential was so blinding almost florescent, that we couldn’t slow down to inquire about the little crack of reality that was trying to make its way to the surface.

Don’t assume, ask questions and try to take things slow. Your heart can only bear so much. So don’t fall for potential, because that’s like falling in love with a fictional character. It will only leave you longing and disappointed.


~dXd

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